Fathership, Manhood & Brotherhood

Honor Fathers…the good and the bad

Fathers’ paving the way, desires the best, has endured much test. Will not candy coat the truth, the foundation of the home. He walks towards many storms to protect. Mess with his family, he will hunt to arrest. He’s been given the authority, to bestow identity to his family…

Many of us dream of having a father who fits this poetic description. If the above words describe your father, know that you have been given a treasured gift, including his imperfections

We are to honor our fathers. It’s not because of what they’ve done or have not done. This would be challenging for those of us whose fathers have not been involved in our lives. Yet, with our hearts fixed on the great I AM, who acts as a Father to the fatherless, we learn to understand it’s not what’s been done to us but how we react to it!

The prisons are filled with men and women, young and old, who were raised without their fathers. So there’s a lack of respect for the men who participated in the conception of their children. It’s understandable in the natural on why many do not desire to have any of them in their lives. But this is where God comes in. In order for us to grow forward and become free from the inside out, we must release our faith and forgive to be forgiven by God our Father!

Raised most of my life without my father, I was given an opportunity to honor him during his later years. I understood that by rejecting him, I was rejecting a part of myself… The more conversations we had, the more I understood Robert Lee Lattimore, my Dad and myself. He wrote a number one hit on the gospel charts the year I was born, 1957! Despite his absence in my early years, I learned by faith to honor him. I also believe that the gift of writing God gave him has been passed on to me. In the end, I was given a unique opportunity to lead my father back to the Lord before his passing.

I’ve heard that life is ten percent what happens to us and ninety percent how we react. If one has the opportunity this Father’s day to honor your father, thank God he is still alive and just do it!

To live daily with hope: Remember, we cannot change the past but by becoming God pleasers, overcoming evil with good, we have power from within, to change our todays.

Article contributor:

Tonya Lee Carrie Fancher is founder & artistic director of God’s Freedom Fighters Int., Inc, a non-profit ministry, a Spoken Word artist, Motivational Speaker and an Advocate for the young and elderly. She can be reached at tonyaleecarriefancher@gmail.com

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A former Youth Division Aide and Mental Health Therapist with the Office of Children and Family Services turned his reduction-in-force experience into a win-win situation, and many are reaping this harvest. When Tyrone “Zire” McCants, who is also a versatile services photographer and visionary in the Phoenix, AZ, lost his job; he took his youthful interest in photography and his prior knowledge from working in a family-centered position into new ventures. He even figured out a way to coincide his two passions into meaningful opportunities to advance his cause. The layoff he faced freed him up to develop his photography business (Zire Photography & Graphics) and to showcase his skills as a prolific artist. One of those ventures that McCants created was an initiative called Proud Poppas United; which is a community-based group designed to strengthen the bonds between fathers & their children. It aims to encourage a tradition of fatherhood and family, increasing the number of active fathers in our community. When McCants isn’t intellectually cultivating his repertoire of talents, he manages to merge his interest in photography with his desire and passion for fatherhood. Using the Proud Poppas Photo Project, as his flagship initiative, he displays images which celebrate and encourage the pride of being an active father. In many minority and ethnic communities, there is a progressive concern of absentee fathers and the devastating effects of this challenge on our children, our families, and community. He also believes that by displaying these images will help to shed light on and celebrate the gift of fatherhood. He hopes that this movement will also become contagious and bring other men closer to their children and families, and encourage a presence of well-being and development in our children, our families, our communities and our people as a whole. McCants quotes that “My scope is capturing the energy between a father and his children” and that’s what he is creating through his community development initiatives. Through, a first look into the reality concerning “Responsible Fathers” many disturbing statistics and contributing factors related to absent fathers. But, to the credit of McCants, he has been able to overlook the negative stereotypes and prejudices that have perpetuated his community and rise to the occasion. Although, he wears many hats that provide guidance and leadership to the infrastructure of his life’s purpose. To all of the fathers out there with the silent victories of triumph and the principle-centered leadership; who fight depression, financial woes, relationship conflicts, the penal system and the racism of our day; McCants say’s “Thank you” for all that you have been able to get accomplished behind your veil of anonymity. You have just endured the last 13 years of this millennium, and you are still here to tell about it. Although some will say that these last few years have been amazing they are still asleep to the fact that; we (The black community) must work with higher ideals versus dollars and cents. We must look within ourselves and see us as being brave, black, accountable, and reliable. The truth of the matter is that you are embracing fatherhood but at a frequency that may not be understood. I am with you as we will not look at the diluted statistics but at the “transformational leadership” that is displayed by all black fathers and role models everywhere. Don’t give up now as our families are leaning on you in these times of difficulty to represent us to the best of your ability as the “Mighty Men of Valor.” You are the man for the job, and now it’s time to come out of hiding and show the world what real black men look like; and we represent as a tribe of Intellectual builders, teachers, warriors, leaders and Kings. “Fatherhood is not a right; it’s a privilege. Your children are the best part of you. I send my love to this new generation of fathers who have learned from the sins of the past and take a very active role in the lives of our children. ~RAPPER TALIB KWELI, FATHER OF TWO


One thought on “Honor Fathers…the good and the bad

  1. This is definitely the thing I’ve been rummaging for! Wonderful and thanks very much!

    Posted by liquid chillstep | November 19, 2012, 1:45 AM

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