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Rebuilding Our Youth’s Sense of Self-Worth.

We have to re-adjust our children’s appreciation and value meters. Today’s youth are deeply entranced with meaningless material things. They will do almost anything to get them, lieing, even robbing, stealing and hurting themselves and other people for garbage like this. Many of our children and a few of our adults have more appreciation and see more value in ‘things’; more than they appreciate and value themselves and other human beings.

A young brother I know asked me about my boots, a plain pair of black boots. He suggested I get the New Prada’s winter boots. Aren’t Prada women’s shoes? I asked. No, he says. They are only about $400 and something. I’m gonna get me a pair or two. I asked, when did he start working? I’m not; I’m going to get my mom to buy them.

Some of our children watch these t.v. characters and music personalities and feel they have to do their best to replicate their image and ideologies. All because to them this represents success, appeal, beauty, strength and acceptance.

I understand each generation has its own style, but it seems like this generation seriously lacks cultural confidence and knows very little about their history. They are so infused with Pop {Popular} Culture, they are building their lives around it. They are self-mutilating and self-destructing from tattoos on their faces to killing themselves by drinking trendy toxic soft drinks and alcohol to say the least. Those are traits low self-esteem.

ENHANCE YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM. Self-esteem refers to how a person feels about himself/herself. Children with high self-esteem tend to be happier and more confident than children with low self-esteem. Active fathers promote their children’s self-esteem by being fully involved in their lives and letting them know that they are highly valued. {Source: Wade F. Horn, David Blankenhorn, and Mitchell B. Pearlstein (Eds.), The Fatherhood Movement: A Call to Action. New York: Lexington Books}

I’m all for self-expression, but respect your roots. We as parents are the first teachers, their sense of self-worth begins with us. We must reconnect, engage and talk with our children and develop better relationships with them. Too many of us are letting the television, video games and media raise, babysit and educate our children, and we are losing them. To get them back we need to be that source of encouragement when they run into life’s challenges. Find out their interests and encourage them to develop their talents and guide them toward goals. Keep them motivated and inspired. Once they grow to appreciate themselves, they will not allow themselves to be enslaved by the superficial.

Author: Tyrone McCants – Founder / Executive Director of Proud Poppas United.

About Proud Poppas United

A former Youth Division Aide and Mental Health Therapist with the Office of Children and Family Services turned his reduction-in-force experience into a win-win situation, and many are reaping this harvest. When Tyrone “Zire” McCants, who is also a versatile services photographer and visionary in the Phoenix, AZ, lost his job; he took his youthful interest in photography and his prior knowledge from working in a family-centered position into new ventures. He even figured out a way to coincide his two passions into meaningful opportunities to advance his cause. The layoff he faced freed him up to develop his photography business (Zire Photography & Graphics) and to showcase his skills as a prolific artist. One of those ventures that McCants created was an initiative called Proud Poppas United; which is a community-based group designed to strengthen the bonds between fathers & their children. It aims to encourage a tradition of fatherhood and family, increasing the number of active fathers in our community. When McCants isn’t intellectually cultivating his repertoire of talents, he manages to merge his interest in photography with his desire and passion for fatherhood. Using the Proud Poppas Photo Project, as his flagship initiative, he displays images which celebrate and encourage the pride of being an active father. In many minority and ethnic communities, there is a progressive concern of absentee fathers and the devastating effects of this challenge on our children, our families, and community. He also believes that by displaying these images will help to shed light on and celebrate the gift of fatherhood. He hopes that this movement will also become contagious and bring other men closer to their children and families, and encourage a presence of well-being and development in our children, our families, our communities and our people as a whole. McCants quotes that “My scope is capturing the energy between a father and his children” and that’s what he is creating through his community development initiatives. Through, a first look into the reality concerning “Responsible Fathers” many disturbing statistics and contributing factors related to absent fathers. But, to the credit of McCants, he has been able to overlook the negative stereotypes and prejudices that have perpetuated his community and rise to the occasion. Although, he wears many hats that provide guidance and leadership to the infrastructure of his life’s purpose. To all of the fathers out there with the silent victories of triumph and the principle-centered leadership; who fight depression, financial woes, relationship conflicts, the penal system and the racism of our day; McCants say’s “Thank you” for all that you have been able to get accomplished behind your veil of anonymity. You have just endured the last 13 years of this millennium, and you are still here to tell about it. Although some will say that these last few years have been amazing they are still asleep to the fact that; we (The black community) must work with higher ideals versus dollars and cents. We must look within ourselves and see us as being brave, black, accountable, and reliable. The truth of the matter is that you are embracing fatherhood but at a frequency that may not be understood. I am with you as we will not look at the diluted statistics but at the “transformational leadership” that is displayed by all black fathers and role models everywhere. Don’t give up now as our families are leaning on you in these times of difficulty to represent us to the best of your ability as the “Mighty Men of Valor.” You are the man for the job, and now it’s time to come out of hiding and show the world what real black men look like; and we represent as a tribe of Intellectual builders, teachers, warriors, leaders and Kings. “Fatherhood is not a right; it’s a privilege. Your children are the best part of you. I send my love to this new generation of fathers who have learned from the sins of the past and take a very active role in the lives of our children. ~RAPPER TALIB KWELI, FATHER OF TWO


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