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Charlotte Observer Readers: Cam Newton’s Unwed Fatherhood Sets Bad Example by Sam Galanis

First, it was Cam Newton’s dancing that sent NFL fans into a tizzy. Now, it’s the fact he’s a dad. The Carolina Panthers quarterback and his longtime girlfriend, Kia Proctor, welcomed a son, Chosen Sebastian Newton, into the world on Christmas Eve. But a week into his new fatherhood, readers of The Charlotte Observer already are questioning his worth as a parent. In Monday’s “Letters to the Editor” section, two separate fans wrote to the Observer chastising Newton for not marrying his girlfriend before their child was born. Apparently, this makes him less of a man and a questionable human being. “So the man whom we celebrate, and with good reason, has produced a son,” reader Patricia Broderick wrote. “Congratulations would be in order if he had been man enough to marry the mother of his child and make a home. This happy occasion is blighted when Cam, whose own parents were married, skips the very basis of being a good parent.” Another reader seemed to wonder if Newton might now be responsible for promoting more unmarried births — or something. “It is amazing that the birth of Cam Newton’s son by his girlfriend is a front-page story,” Thomas Uhl wrote. “The U.S. is seeing a rise in unmarried births and for the media to flash this as the greatest happening for Cam Newton is contrary to today’s family principles.” Of course, the idea that being unwed automatically makes Newton an unfit parent or “brings shame to his family,” as one NBC Sports radio host suggested, is ridiculous. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs of what constitutes a family, but to attack a new father simply because he doesn’t have a marriage certificate is unfair. Not to mention, New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady also had a child out of wedlock in 2007, and you didn’t see people writing in to The Boston Globe to complain. At the end of the day, all that matters is Newton and Proctor love their child and work together to give him the best life they can provide, even if they never choose to marry.

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Read more at: http://nesn.com/2016/01/charlotte-observer-readers-wonder-if-cam-newtons-unwed-fatherhood-sets-bad-example/

About Proud Poppas United

A former Youth Division Aide and Mental Health Therapist with the Office of Children and Family Services turned his reduction-in-force experience into a win-win situation, and many are reaping this harvest. When Tyrone “Zire” McCants, who is also a versatile services photographer and visionary in the Phoenix, AZ, lost his job; he took his youthful interest in photography and his prior knowledge from working in a family-centered position into new ventures. He even figured out a way to coincide his two passions into meaningful opportunities to advance his cause. The layoff he faced freed him up to develop his photography business (Zire Photography & Graphics) and to showcase his skills as a prolific artist. One of those ventures that McCants created was an initiative called Proud Poppas United; which is a community-based group designed to strengthen the bonds between fathers & their children. It aims to encourage a tradition of fatherhood and family, increasing the number of active fathers in our community. When McCants isn’t intellectually cultivating his repertoire of talents, he manages to merge his interest in photography with his desire and passion for fatherhood. Using the Proud Poppas Photo Project, as his flagship initiative, he displays images which celebrate and encourage the pride of being an active father. In many minority and ethnic communities, there is a progressive concern of absentee fathers and the devastating effects of this challenge on our children, our families, and community. He also believes that by displaying these images will help to shed light on and celebrate the gift of fatherhood. He hopes that this movement will also become contagious and bring other men closer to their children and families, and encourage a presence of well-being and development in our children, our families, our communities and our people as a whole. McCants quotes that “My scope is capturing the energy between a father and his children” and that’s what he is creating through his community development initiatives. Through, a first look into the reality concerning “Responsible Fathers” many disturbing statistics and contributing factors related to absent fathers. But, to the credit of McCants, he has been able to overlook the negative stereotypes and prejudices that have perpetuated his community and rise to the occasion. Although, he wears many hats that provide guidance and leadership to the infrastructure of his life’s purpose. To all of the fathers out there with the silent victories of triumph and the principle-centered leadership; who fight depression, financial woes, relationship conflicts, the penal system and the racism of our day; McCants say’s “Thank you” for all that you have been able to get accomplished behind your veil of anonymity. You have just endured the last 13 years of this millennium, and you are still here to tell about it. Although some will say that these last few years have been amazing they are still asleep to the fact that; we (The black community) must work with higher ideals versus dollars and cents. We must look within ourselves and see us as being brave, black, accountable, and reliable. The truth of the matter is that you are embracing fatherhood but at a frequency that may not be understood. I am with you as we will not look at the diluted statistics but at the “transformational leadership” that is displayed by all black fathers and role models everywhere. Don’t give up now as our families are leaning on you in these times of difficulty to represent us to the best of your ability as the “Mighty Men of Valor.” You are the man for the job, and now it’s time to come out of hiding and show the world what real black men look like; and we represent as a tribe of Intellectual builders, teachers, warriors, leaders and Kings. “Fatherhood is not a right; it’s a privilege. Your children are the best part of you. I send my love to this new generation of fathers who have learned from the sins of the past and take a very active role in the lives of our children. ~RAPPER TALIB KWELI, FATHER OF TWO

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